What Mourning Demonstrates

Scripture Focus: Ezekiel 24.18-24

18 So I spoke to the people in the morning, and in the evening my wife died. The next morning I did as I had been commanded. 19 Then the people asked me, “Won’t you tell us what these things have to do with us? Why are you acting like this?” 20 So I said to them, “The word of the Lord came to me: 21 Say to the people of Israel, ‘This is what the Sovereign Lord says: I am about to desecrate my sanctuary—the stronghold in which you take pride, the delight of your eyes, the object of your affection. The sons and daughters you left behind will fall by the sword. 22 And you will do as I have done. You will not cover your mustache and beard or eat the customary food of mourners. 23 You will keep your turbans on your heads and your sandals on your feet. You will not mourn or weep but will waste away because of your sins and groan among yourselves. 24 Ezekiel will be a sign to you; you will do just as he has done. When this happens, you will know that I am the Sovereign Lord.’

Reflection: What Mourning Demonstrates

By John Tillman

Demonstrative mourning was important in Ezekiel’s culture. It showed the importance of a loss.

To tear one’s clothing, to put ashes or dust on one’s head, and to fast from food, drink, and personal hygiene was typical. Yet, when Ezekiel’s wife died, he was only allowed to quietly groan to himself.

Known for extravagant public demonstrations and shocking language, Ezekiel sat quietly, mourning in near silence. This silence was as shocking as anything he ever did.

God sometimes got uncomfortably involved in prophets’ personal lives. Jeremiah was commanded to have no wife or children. Hosea married an unfaithful wife and remained faithful to her. The similar stories of Hosea and Jeremiah shed light on God’s command to Ezekiel.

Hosea’s marriage became a metaphor of God’s relationship with Israel, filled with betrayal on one side and faithfulness and tender love on the other.

Jeremiah was commanded not to marry or have children because of the coming destruction and not to mourn traditionally when destruction arrived. Because of the people’s betrayal, sin, and wickedness, God withdrew his blessing, love, and pity from the people, and this included not mourning as expected. (Jeremiah 16.1-15)

Jeremiah’s singleness, Hosea’s faithfulness, and Ezekiel’s silence spoke volumes about the severity of Israel’s sin but all three included a promise of restoration.

What is there for us to learn from this? To emulate? Ezekiel, Jeremiah, and Hosea demonstrated different ways God mourns and deals with our sins.

We shouldn’t build our lives around exceptions and special cases in scripture but we can be ready for the exceptions. Mourning is the norm. When we have losses, whatever they are, we can and should mourn them and cry to God with all the pain and emotion in our hearts. The psalms teach us how to do this.

But there may come times when we must suffer things quietly. Perhaps, as with Jeremiah we should quietly mourn losses tied to sins. Perhaps, as with Ezekiel, we must demonstrate quiet acceptance and a determination to trust God.

Demonstrative mourning, whether quiet or loud, demonstrates something we believe about God.

Let us demonstrate, sometimes with loud cries and sometimes with quiet groaning, that God suffers with us and cares for our losses.

Let us demonstrate that God is with us in every loss.Let us demonstrate our hope in his promise that our losses will be restored. (Joel 2.25)

Divine Hours Prayer: The Call to Praise

Open my lips, O Lord, and my mouth shall proclaim your praise. — Psalm 51.16

– From The Divine Hours: Prayers for Autumn and Wintertime by Phyllis Tickle.

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Scripture Focus: Ezekiel 24.11-12
      11 Then set the empty pot on the coals 
         till it becomes hot and its copper glows, 
         so that its impurities may be melted 
         and its deposit burned away. 
      12 It has frustrated all efforts; 
         its heavy deposit has not been removed, 
         not even by fire.

Psalm 72.4-7
      4 May he defend the afflicted among the people 
         and save the children of the needy; 
         may he crush the oppressor. 
      5 May he endure u as long as the sun, 
         as long as the moon, through all generations. 
      6 May he be like rain falling on a mown field, 
         like showers watering the earth. 
      7 In his days may the righteous flourish 
         and prosperity abound till the moon is no more. 

Reflection: Calling the Kettle
By John Tillman

Ezekiel’s pot is too filthy for use. Caked, rotted food is encrusted inside. Cooking anything in it would be unappetizing and unhealthy, perhaps poisonous. 

This pot is black. This kettle is filthy. “It has frustrated all efforts,” God says. 

If you have never stood looking at a pot with food so encrusted and burned to the bottom that you were tempted to just throw it away, then you’ve been luckier in the kitchen than I have. Yet, God did not cast away Jerusalem, nor us.

Psalm 72 tells us what the pot was intended to be—a blessing to the world. Saving the afflicted and the needy, crushing the oppressor, and causing the righteous to flourish was its purpose. (Psalm 72.4-7) Yet Jerusalem became the opposite of that. 

Instead of crushing oppressors, they became them. Instead of saving the afflicted and the needy, they became the source of affliction and the cause of need. Instead of causing the righteous to flourish, they cultivated corruption into a flourishing garden.

This Psalm speaks of earthly kingship but prophetically points to a different king. David was not fooled by the golden age he lived in. He knew better than most that human leaders, especially himself, were incapable of bringing the kind of glowing, incandescent justice he wrote of. He looks instead, past his son, Solomon, to Jesus, the king God promised would come.

The bright, shiny kingdom David wrote from would become the blackened, filthy, pot of Ezekiel’s vision. We, or our nation or our church or our community, can easily be like this pot. It doesn’t happen all at once, it happens over time.

But we are blessed with a God who refused to simply toss away the worthless pot. God is a reclaiming God but often the first step of reclaiming is a scouring, burning, cleaning that strips us bare. The only option is to set the pot on a fire so hot that its metal glows, incandescent heat burning and melting away its gross deposits.

Have we frustrated God’s efforts?
Of what corruption do we need to be scoured?
What flaking varnishes of sin need to be stripped and sanded down?
How hot will the coals have to get before we allow our hardened hearts to melt and be purified?

Only then will God call our kettle back. Purified, he calls us to be used as a blessing to the world.

*And speaking of refurbishment and restoration of the corrupt…September 21, for millions of Christians across the world, is a day to celebrate the calling of Matthew, a publican and tax collector, a corrupt “pot” called and chosen to carry the account of Christ’s compassion to us in his gospel.

Divine Hours Prayer: The Refrain for the Morning Lessons
Purge me from my sin, and I shall be pure; wash me, and I shall be clean indeed. — Psalm 51.8

– Divine Hours prayers from The Divine Hours: Prayers for Summertime by Phyllis Tickle

Today’s Readings
Ezekiel 24  (Listen – 4:13)
Psalm 72 (Listen – 2:21)

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